Tuesday, January 31, 2006

Question Day

Easy post:

What's more important to you, your pride or your success (and yes, these can be and often are two different things)?

We all have that little green monster, some of us hide it better than others, but underneath the surface, it's there. What makes you jealous?

And I will answer, too. But in the comments section. Later.


angel, jr. said...

I think pride is more important.

Naturally, I get jealous when I see people get the success that I want to achieve.

Dorothy said...

I am all about success. I guess I'm kind of Machiavellian that way, but pride is the first thing I throw out the window if success is on the line. Hard lessons, but well worth it in the end. The success of my life now vs. the pride of my life then. I so choose success.

Jealousy, I only really get that way when something I perceive to be "mine" is taken or threatened- like a babysitter for a Saturday night or when my sister flirts with my husband right in front of me.

Coyote Mike said...

I really don't know if I can answer this. I know I'm not successful, but it doesn't really bother me. And I don't really do anything that I would think of as prideful, but there are things that I think are beneath my dignity, which is why I've never worked in fast food.

pk said...

How do you define success? I would go with pride. Whether you fail or succeed at anything in life If you don't have pride in who you are then what does success matter.

As far as jealousy, if its hiding itself in there it is doing a great job because as an adult I can't recall ever being really jealous of anyone for any reason. That's not to say I haven't been jealous I just can't recall.

Jenni said...

I'd have to say pride is more important. Looking myself in the eye is more valuable than anything success could give me. Pride in knowing that I live my life the best way I know how. Some things can not be compromised.

Dorothy said...

I was checking back to see if Meghan had posted her response and I'm feeling like I should qualify my answer.

I take great pride in my successes because they are genuine, and I have kept my integrity throughout. Pride and integrity are 2 different things in my world. I have a successful marriage, children, career. Pride has always been a pitfall for me and I try to avoid it. I will do anything to learn a better way or to attain a righteous goal. I did 5 yrs in fast food through high school and college, and would do it again if the success of my family were on the line. I think I may write about this more on my new blog. Good starter Meghan, I'll be sure to link you into the post.

trueborn said...

Uh oh Megs you're starting touble!
I'm gonna tell!

Fuck all of that tripe. It doesn't matter what other people do. You don't have to make other people happy. You don't have to do what they say, unless you're in prison, cuz then you do.

Seriously, this is your story, your the hero, how can you be jealous of someone elses story? Theirs might be all sunshine and roses right now, but it could all be shit in a couple of years.
Knowing the lows allows you to know yourself better, the heights teach you nothing but arrogance. Fall down a few times, fail a few times, what matters most is whether you pick yourself up, not whether someone else never fell at all.
This is about you.
Not them. Hell if you are lucky enough to have people who will help you up, use em. That's what they are there for. They want to help you with your story, they want a happy ending for you. So take their proffered hand, and remember to pay them back later.
If it's about pride, then make it a point of pride to pay them back when you are able.

Drunken Chud said...

pride or success... tough one. i'm not successful, so how would i know? i have no real barometer. success is important to my future, more so than pride. i mean, i've worked a lot of shitty jobs (figuratively and literally) and my pride never got in the way. at the end of the day i am who i am and that's who i'll always be. i'll always have my pride, but i want success. i desire it. so i would say it's more important.

as for the jealous thing... not much can make me jealous. it's not who i am. the only type of jealous i get is the superficial type, as in when i see someone who as able to hop in their private jet and be in east bumblefuck for dinner then west bumblefuck for dancing and drinks. and that's not even a realistic jealous. so there you go... drunken chud in a nutshell.

Laurie (aka buggy) said...

Wow I don't know if either one is important enough to me because I don't feel successful yet, and I am not too proud to admit to, or be open about anything. Huh.

I get jealous if I think Sammy would find someone attractive even though he doesn't even say it. He's never been the disrespectful type to say "she's hot" about someone on tv or anywhere for that matter. In a way it's worse. B/c he respects me too much to ever say anything like that, even if other people around us do, he never says a word.
But then it's like - I have to just leave it up to my mind to wonder. So if I'm watchin a J-Lo video and think, hm, does he think she's hot? I'll get mad just in my head about it and not even say anything. Poor guy. He doesn't say anything and I accuse him. I mean I think J-Lo's hot.